Forgiveness is not about forgetting what someone did to you. Forgiveness doesn’t provide the oppressor a relief from their guilt, as our mind tells us.
It, on the contrary, releases us from emotional dependence on the actions of our oppressor.
Forgiveness is about gaining emotional control on the situation. It is important for regaining self confidence, and stability of our ego.
Forgiveness is an act of liberation. When we forgive someone irrespective of their stance, our mind perceives it as the ability to move on from a situation as tantalising as this. In return, it assures us a whip hand position where we’re superior to the condolences of our oppressor. Together, this conscious self and our mind* liberate one another from this fear of aftermath of being vulnerable in a similar situation again. People might oppress us, and that will hurt but they won’t leave us in ruins. They can’t hold us back in life, both emotionally and physically.
The biggest obstacle in this path is aggression. It is an enemy to liberation.
Aggression chains us, and forgiveness is it’s key.
*an interplay of conscious and subconscious mind